Selamat Ulang Tahun Mama :)

Hari ini mama ulang tahun. Kemarin sore sempat telepon beliau, eh yang bersangkutan lagi goreng kerupuk. hehehehe. "Nanti telepon lagi ya, mama lagi goreng kerupuk nih. Mumpung anak2 (baca:cucu) lagi maen, Cha". Begitulah kira-kira jawaban beliau saat ditelepon. Sibukkknyaaa.. hehehee :D

Beliau cerita kalau sore itu akan ada kebaktian keluarga di sektor Ebenheazer (komunitas gereja). Sejak dini hari pukul 2 sudah bangun untuk siapkan piring dan teman2nya. Tak lupa mengatur letak kursi-kursi di ruang tamu. Lalu pagi harinya berangkat ke pasar untuk beli ikan tuna dan ayam (cucu-cucu ditinggal di rumah.. hehehe). Setibanya dari pasar langsung menyiapkan sarapan untuk cucu serta memandikan mereka. Setelah mereka sudah enjoy n bermain sendiri, mama lekas mulai memasak. 

Seabrek kegiatan masak memasak yang dia kerjakan sendiri memang sudah bukan hal yang baru terdengar di telinga saya. Sejak kami kecil, mama terbiasa mengerjakan segalanya sendiri. Anak-anaknya paling kebagian hal2 minor seperti atur kursi, menyapu, paling mentok kupas bawang merah :D

Seabrek kegiatan yang dikerjakan sendiri memang sudah merupakan kegiatan yang 'biasa' di rumah, tetapi diusianya yang senja, bagi saya itu Luar Biasa... Seperti tampak dipandangan saya bahwa dia enjoy  dengan kegiatan tersebut saat kami berbincang di telepon kemarin. Jika itu membuatnya semakin sehat dan berbahagia, saya pun ikut senang.

Mungkin saya tidak bisa seperti dia yang se begitu gesitnya mengerjakan pekerjaan rumah termasuk momong dua cucu balitanya itu. Beliau adalah beliau. Saya berbeda. Perbedaan tidaklah mengapa sejauh itu memberikan kebahagiaan di hati masing-masing dan bagi keluarga. 

Moment of Silence

It's been more than a year since I moved to Melbourne. And, within months, we will go back to Indonesia. Time flies.. Yes, time flies until finally you stuck realize what you've done to make every moment so precious...

Writing, I believe is one of many ways of reflection. I'm glad that today I decided to write something as a media of reflection.

In this time, I'm seeing that every moment spent like a curve, there're ups and downs. There are moment that I was so weak, didn't have a positive energy to start a morning, and constantly keep the negativity until night comes. But, there're moment of glories. Moments of victorious, when I was able to wake up early in the morning, put my biggest smile to my beloved ones, and close the day with gratitude.

I wished I could achieve victory every moment in my life as a mum and wife here.. But I don't....

Be a winner, be a perfect mum, be a professional worker, be a successful student, it's all the hope that I can list down right now I guess. And when I started to narrow it down with steps of what-to-do to achieve, I may find boundaries. And again, if I failed, I become so frustrated.

It's important for me to have a moment of silence. A moment where I let my self silent, and think as simple as possible to get back on track. 

Marriage - same / different sex marriage

Pagi ini browsing liat berita2 dan terhenti di gallery photo gay marriage yang sudah disahkan di beberapa states di US. Banyak  wajah2 sukacita terpancar di para pasangan sesama jenis yang memang menanti nantikan pengesahan undang2 ini selama berpuluh2 tahun. Make me realize, they love is so strong sampai mereka merasakan kegembiraan yang sedemikian. Marriage lisence sudah di tangan, dan tidak sedikit  pasangan yang mensahkan hubungan mereka ke jenjang pernikahan.

Saya tidak sedang membahas sepakat atau tidak nya saya dengan hubungan sesama jenis maupun pernikahan sesama jenis, karena bagi saya keputusan mejalani hubungan dengan sesama jenis adalah hak mutlak setiap orang. Sebagai manusia dewasa  yang telah menjalani pilihan-pilihan hidup mereka, setiap manusia berhak menentukan hidup mereka sesuai dengan apa yang mereka yakini.

Hal yang menarik perhatian saya adalah keputusan untuk menikah..
Entah itu menikah dengan sesama jenis atau lain jenis, yang saya dapat simpulkan setelah menjalani pernikahan selama 1 tahun lebih ini adalah, man, you have to think it seriously, you have to realize that once you decide to marry to someone, things in life soon will CHANGE. YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE.
AND ARE YOU READY TO CHANGE?



Now I understand why some people decide not to make take their relationship into a legal relationship called marriage. Tentu saja saya sangat menolak konsep tolol poligami karena bagi saya orang yang menganut poligami/ poliandri hanya dijalankan oleh orang yang tidak mengerti arti kata adil yang tidak lahiriah diartikan secara linier. Bagaimana mungkin seorang bisa berlaku adil pada dua atau lebih pasangannya dengan berkata akan membahagiakan lahir batin,-- harta-sex-perhatian-- secara sama rata? Kebahagian dan kasih pasangan dalam pernikahan tidak bisa dikalkulasi secara sama rata.

So once you disagree with your partner, there's no turning back, you have to move forward. Now it's about pushing your ego, listen, communicate, and find the solution together that might against your old principle.

Apalagi kalau udah punya anak, dont you ever mention, man, gw udah gak bisa lagi maen ke salon atau bioskop sama temen2 gw sejak ada anak, mau ganti2an ngasuh sama suami/istri, dia nya juga pengen ngelakuin hal yang sama. Sedap gak tuh, makan tuh cinta pas pacaran, semua tampak enak dan manis2 aja!

(jangan cari alasan tar mau cari pengasuh aja biar masih bisa enjoy, ini fakta bahwa dalam hidup lo yang singlee dan udah menikah, pasti ada yang harus diubah).

Christmas is in the air!

It's December :)
The best session ever in my version.
Especially this year,we're in a new place of living,Melbourne,with the cute baby Terra in our lil family. Thank God for this experiece. It's challenging!! Yippie.
Also because this month Terra will hav her first solid food. And im excited to make and try new different foo for my beloved baby girl.
Ok solid food will be another story. I'll list down xmas funny unforgetable story of this year 2012. Let's begin :
1. We had celebrated xmas at BIUC (brunswick indonesia uniting church) on the 2nd dec. The celebration was great. The kids performance was awesome. Buut,the most funny thing i found here was,for the first time i saw nativity drama,Joseph was missing. Only Marry on the stage when 3 kings came and visited :D owh maybe he was with the owner of the hostel,negotiate whether they could hav extra room to stay ;D
2. Still about nativity drama,one of the angel Gabrielle (was acted by sunday school kid) was came late on the set.
3. Still about xmas celebration, one of sunday school kid sang and played guitar beautifully. It was great. But unfortunately the microphone was not as great as her performance. Th mic was loose and not in a right grip. A man came and tried to fix it. He came twice and it's not working, until she has to sing and her mouth has to follow the mic (because it was not stable).
4. Im happy because for the first time i was together with Santa in his dressing room behind the stage! :)) 

5. Christmas decoration at home :) Lights and xmas tree disney miniatures (green and red)
Next # will be my experience making cake for xmas! so happy can't waitt!



PS. this photo was taken after the service. we used baby Jesus crib to lay Terra down, and she was cried out loudddd LOL