Marriage - same / different sex marriage

Pagi ini browsing liat berita2 dan terhenti di gallery photo gay marriage yang sudah disahkan di beberapa states di US. Banyak  wajah2 sukacita terpancar di para pasangan sesama jenis yang memang menanti nantikan pengesahan undang2 ini selama berpuluh2 tahun. Make me realize, they love is so strong sampai mereka merasakan kegembiraan yang sedemikian. Marriage lisence sudah di tangan, dan tidak sedikit  pasangan yang mensahkan hubungan mereka ke jenjang pernikahan.

Saya tidak sedang membahas sepakat atau tidak nya saya dengan hubungan sesama jenis maupun pernikahan sesama jenis, karena bagi saya keputusan mejalani hubungan dengan sesama jenis adalah hak mutlak setiap orang. Sebagai manusia dewasa  yang telah menjalani pilihan-pilihan hidup mereka, setiap manusia berhak menentukan hidup mereka sesuai dengan apa yang mereka yakini.

Hal yang menarik perhatian saya adalah keputusan untuk menikah..
Entah itu menikah dengan sesama jenis atau lain jenis, yang saya dapat simpulkan setelah menjalani pernikahan selama 1 tahun lebih ini adalah, man, you have to think it seriously, you have to realize that once you decide to marry to someone, things in life soon will CHANGE. YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE.
AND ARE YOU READY TO CHANGE?



Now I understand why some people decide not to make take their relationship into a legal relationship called marriage. Tentu saja saya sangat menolak konsep tolol poligami karena bagi saya orang yang menganut poligami/ poliandri hanya dijalankan oleh orang yang tidak mengerti arti kata adil yang tidak lahiriah diartikan secara linier. Bagaimana mungkin seorang bisa berlaku adil pada dua atau lebih pasangannya dengan berkata akan membahagiakan lahir batin,-- harta-sex-perhatian-- secara sama rata? Kebahagian dan kasih pasangan dalam pernikahan tidak bisa dikalkulasi secara sama rata.

So once you disagree with your partner, there's no turning back, you have to move forward. Now it's about pushing your ego, listen, communicate, and find the solution together that might against your old principle.

Apalagi kalau udah punya anak, dont you ever mention, man, gw udah gak bisa lagi maen ke salon atau bioskop sama temen2 gw sejak ada anak, mau ganti2an ngasuh sama suami/istri, dia nya juga pengen ngelakuin hal yang sama. Sedap gak tuh, makan tuh cinta pas pacaran, semua tampak enak dan manis2 aja!

(jangan cari alasan tar mau cari pengasuh aja biar masih bisa enjoy, ini fakta bahwa dalam hidup lo yang singlee dan udah menikah, pasti ada yang harus diubah).

Christmas is in the air!

It's December :)
The best session ever in my version.
Especially this year,we're in a new place of living,Melbourne,with the cute baby Terra in our lil family. Thank God for this experiece. It's challenging!! Yippie.
Also because this month Terra will hav her first solid food. And im excited to make and try new different foo for my beloved baby girl.
Ok solid food will be another story. I'll list down xmas funny unforgetable story of this year 2012. Let's begin :
1. We had celebrated xmas at BIUC (brunswick indonesia uniting church) on the 2nd dec. The celebration was great. The kids performance was awesome. Buut,the most funny thing i found here was,for the first time i saw nativity drama,Joseph was missing. Only Marry on the stage when 3 kings came and visited :D owh maybe he was with the owner of the hostel,negotiate whether they could hav extra room to stay ;D
2. Still about nativity drama,one of the angel Gabrielle (was acted by sunday school kid) was came late on the set.
3. Still about xmas celebration, one of sunday school kid sang and played guitar beautifully. It was great. But unfortunately the microphone was not as great as her performance. Th mic was loose and not in a right grip. A man came and tried to fix it. He came twice and it's not working, until she has to sing and her mouth has to follow the mic (because it was not stable).
4. Im happy because for the first time i was together with Santa in his dressing room behind the stage! :)) 

5. Christmas decoration at home :) Lights and xmas tree disney miniatures (green and red)
Next # will be my experience making cake for xmas! so happy can't waitt!



PS. this photo was taken after the service. we used baby Jesus crib to lay Terra down, and she was cried out loudddd LOL

Help Your self

The Amazing Transformation of a Guy Who Didn’t Give Up!

Today one of my friend share this video.. A truly inspirational video. A man who struggle on his physical disabilities for 15 years, until one time, a friend came to him and believe that he can fight to be normal.
His surrounding may not be supportive, but until one big moment hit him, he help himself to fight day by day, until he succeed.

Please kindly delete these questions when yo ask someone!

Semakin gerah dengan  pertanyaan-pertanyaan yang sering dilontarkan oleh kebanyakan orang. Entah apakah itu memang serius pengen tahu, peduli, atau pun basa basi.

1. Agamamu apa?

2. Umurnya berapa?

3. Sudah menikah atau belum?

4. Kapan menikah?

5. Kapan punya momongan?

Sorry for being so cynical  but at some point, we need to respect other private life. And let the difference of the world stay the same, because honesty, respect, and love grows from difference. 

Jika ada pertanyaan yang mau ditambahkan, monggo.